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The Hidden Lives of Men
« on: October 06, 2012, 11:16:45 AM »
Why do men fall out of love? It's rarely a simple issue of attraction, sex, or money trouble. In this provocative no-holds-barred guide, Michael French brings unparalleled insight into the male psyche and reveals why so many men feel trapped, unhappy, or unfulfilled, and what women can do about it.

Based on interviews with men from all ages and walks of life this grippingly honest book illustrates why, when it comes to relationships, so many men feel "outgunned and outmatched" by women. Discover:

The 4 relationship busters that lead couples to flounder and sink - the loss of intimacy / the quest for validation / the perfection impulse / the fading of attraction - and strategies for dealing with them head-on
Six key reasons why men fall out of love - from issues of identity, power, and fear to stereotypes about who they really are and what they want
The truth about men and (mis)communication - and ways for them to open up
Three questions a woman needs to ask a man before she becomes emotionally involved
The Relationship Audit - how couples can figure out what is driving them apart and find ways to mend their relationship
By finally bringing men's true feelings to the surface, Michael French offers a dramatic new approach to understanding men and their hidden emotions. This guide illuminates the deeper reasons why men fall out of love and, more important, shows how relationships can be healed.

Chapter 1

For each man kills the thing he loves.

- Oscar Wilde

There are many stories by women about why they leave their husbands, partners, or lovers, but few by men who head for the exits. Are they not getting the attention they want? Are they simply tired of, bored with, or frustrated by their partners and want to trade them in - as if shopping for a car - for a newer, shinier model? Are they filled with so much anger, frustration, or confusion about their relationships, or other parts of their lives, that they don't know what else to do but leave? Maybe they're hoping to find a new woman to save them, or they're chasing a lost childhood. Many are clueless about where their emotions come from and how they work - they understand the effect but not the cause - and how important their childhood is to the man and intimate partner they ultimately become.

Their confusion also comes from mixed messages they receive from women. On the one hand, men are often chided for not being emotional or sensitive enough, but they also hear that emotions are a woman's domain and that men can't possibly understand their complexity or compete with women in this arena. So men think, with linear male logic, why bother becoming something, or attempt to master a skill, they can't possibly succeed at?

For men, falling in love seems relatively straightforward. It usually starts with physical attraction and/or infatuation, followed by an emotional connection, then attachment, openness, and trust and, as the relationship matures, companionship, a sense of responsibility, and dependency. Falling out of love is usually more gradual, complex, and unsettling, not just for its painful impact but because of the subtle, dimly understood reasons behind it. The thief who steals love away is sometimes another being who lives inside us. Often he is the child we once were and then abandoned prematurely. The thief is also the incessant voice of our masculinity, and our passive willingness to accept traditional male stereotypes. It is as well the "binge and purge" values of popular culture; the struggle to find healthy role models; the conscious and unconscious behavior of our female partners; and, not least, the difference between how men and women learn, think, and communicate.

The ten stories here offer different insights on why men struggle with love. One insight, hardly groundbreaking but still important, is that the nest and its boundaries send a mixed message to a man almost from the beginning. On the one hand, there is the idea of "growing up" and "settling down" and having a family - a primary definition of masculinity. On the other, most men, at some level, are inherently uncomfortable in a committed relationship. They think or fantasize about whether they chose the right partner, and isn't it too bad that they have to settle for just one woman because no one partner can satisfy a man on every level. Men tend to want it all, even if they're afraid to say so out loud, or admit that, practically speaking, the goal is impossible. The irony is that when their relationships run into trouble, men, rather than leave, often stay - out of convenience or habit, fear of the unknown, the sense that quitting means failure, or the belief that somehow they can fix the problem. The underlying assumption behind all four reasons - ubiquitous in male culture - is that a man must always feel in control of his own world.

In any relationship, as early infatuation gives way to the daily routine and compromises of living together, men dwell specifically on the limitations on their sexual freedom. What a woman may happily define as "security" and "comfort" often comes without the consent of a man's hormones. Perhaps he understood the theory of giving up his freedom before entering the relationship, but reality is another matter. For many, suppressing their attraction to other women comes at the price of finding fault with their partners or themselves, retreating into passive-aggressive behaviors, or wanting to escape from their relationships whenever possible. Men like this may simply not be emotionally ready for a serious commitment, but even when they are ready, their hormonal and psychological makeup mean a need for exploration and a certain amount of freedom.

As hoary a stereotype as it may be, this is the basic definition of a hunter-gatherer. This does not imply a license to pursue other intimate relationships, but it does mean finding healthy outlets for independence, self-assertion, and emotional fulfillment: a world without women. Exclusive male enclaves can mean anything from car clubs, investment groups, sports, Rotary meetings, prayer groups, breakfast clubs, or just time alone for thinking or reading. In J. R. Moehringer's memoir, The Tender Bar, his adolescence and manhood are largely shaped by the company of men who gather in a bar to drink, to vent, and to be honest about their feelings, whether or not they are politically correct. The theme is men respecting and caring for other men. It is also about being unintimidated, deflecting judgment, and burying your pain, including that caused by women, before it buries you.


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十几公里外就是重要的工业区
« Reply #1 on: April 19, 2017, 08:48:48 AM »
全球生活典范生态城并非孤岛 污水库将变净湖
 
 生态城中的居民将获得新的、更为有效的政府服务,在新的社会管理模式下生活。不需要像“小灵通”那样的奇遇,也不需要乘坐目的地不明的火箭,现在从北京开车向东南一个半小时,就可以到达未来城市的工地。
 在渤海岸边原本是盐田和碱滩的土地上,确切一点说,在距北京150公里、距天津中心城区45公里,位于汉沽和塘沽两区之间的这片地方,过去一年,已经投入了数千名工人和70亿元人民币。未来城市犹如一个“见风就长”的婴儿,轮廓正在逐渐清晰。
 它基于中国和新加坡两个国家领导人对于人民福祉的承诺以及对未来的理想。也许在不久的将来,它也将成为全世界生活的典范。
 一个城市居民的未来生活
 清晨,未来城市的居民在熟睡中醒来,他具有新移民的诸多特征:年轻、高知——事实上,每100个生活在这座城市的人中,橡塑专用温度控制机,就有超过50人具有中高级职称。
 由于住宅采用了自然通风设计,即使在炎热的夏季夜晚也可以不开空调。到了冬天,地源热泵把土壤中的热量“取”出来,提高温度后供给室内用于采暖;在夏季有需要的时候,室内的热量也会被“取”出释放到土壤中,并且常年能保证地下温度的均衡。
 事实上,地源热泵空调没有燃烧过程,无污染排放、无外挂机、无热岛效应、无噪音。
 洗漱的热水来自楼顶的太阳能设施,大厦在建造时就把它们纳入一体化设计。水龙头可以在多种模式间切换:洗脸时用“花洒”,大大节约用水;吃完早饭刷碗时,再用强劲的“水柱”冲洗。
 这里将兴建各类雨水收集、中水回用、海水淡化设施。超过50%的用水来自这些非传统水源。
 出门前的最后一件事,是把前一天的垃圾收好扔进垃圾管道。在地下,默默运行着气力垃圾处理系统。风机运行产生真空负压,使垃圾以每小时70公里的速度,经管道被抽运至收集站。
 六成以上的垃圾将被回收利用。这些废物利用产生的经济效益再用于城市的福利设施建设。
 他骑着一辆便携式自行车出发,沿着专门的慢行道路去往办公室。
 办公室并不遥远,只相隔2公里,那是一座专门研发节水产品的企业。在建设早期,它满足这座新城市的需求,现在已经成为全球重要的节水产品研发中心,向全世界出售节水专利和产品。环保产品也是整个城市的支柱产业。
 整个写字楼20%以上的能源消耗来自太阳能、风能、水能、地热、潮汐、生物质能等可再生能源。
 工作时,低楼层的人们更愿意打开窗户,因为一年中空气质量二级以上的天气超过310天。而且由于只拥有少量汽车,街道上噪音和尾气的排放量都很低。
 工作间歇,他接到了“邻里中心”的电话。这个社区管理机构通知他,周末将召开居民大会,表决出售楼梯广告所得资金的使用方法。
 下午他去了城市另一端的轻轨车站。一路上,到处都是绿色。由于整个城市都是从盐碱地上建设起来的,芦荟这样的耐盐植物占多数。他又接到一个电话,刚毕业的弟弟要来这里上班,询问办理公屋居住的手续——生态城有20%以上的公屋专门提供给低收入者。
 根据政府刚公布的数字,整个城市的人均寿命已在全国排到了第一,他正考虑把父母接来。虽然房价没有下降,但这里住宅的价格要低于天津市区。
 他从轻轨站上车,然后在天津转坐城际火车,1小时后到达北京,与合作伙伴讨论了新项目。下午4点多,他又回到了生态城。
 吃过晚饭,他先去了社区的体育中心打篮球。在这里,每个居住区,步行500米范围内都有免费文体设施,步行可以到达的商业服务设施,扎光机专用加热器,也基本可以满足人们的需要。
 忙碌了一天,当他躺在床上时,120高温模温机,透过窗户可以看到满天的星星。
 中国需要什么样的生态城
 这是中新天津生态城未来生活的一幕,而且并不遥远。
 “生态城市”是70年代联合国教科文组织“人与生物圈”计划中提出的概念。从那时起到现在,全世界具有远大理想的科学家、政治家,都在致力于创造这样一个未来世界的样板。
 在巴西,“生态城”叫做库里蒂巴,它是世界上绿化最好的城市之一,人均绿地面积581平方米,是联合国推荐数的4倍;在阿联酋,阿布扎比将建设世界第一座不使用一滴石油、绝对零排放的绿色城市。
 虽然全国各地多有提出“生态城”的口号,但只有天津的这座生态城被冠上了“中国”字头。
 它是两个国家对于未来的憧憬和试验:本土狭小的岛国新加坡,想在这里建设一座面向未来的宜居园区。而中国人则希望,为可持续发展的理念和城市模式的转变,树立一个样板。
 “中国的生态城不能脱离国情。”中新天津生态城管委会副主任蔺雪峰告诉本刊记者。
 为了建造阿布扎比的“太阳城”,阿联酋政府早在2006年就用2.5亿美元建立基金,专门研发太阳能技术。石油之国以一种异常强势的方式打造自己的“生态城”。这对于期望得到复制经验的中国来讲,显然并不合适。
 但像库里蒂巴那样主要通过绿化来实现“生态”,起点又显得太低。
 “它要使用诸多的环保先进技术,还要让居住者能够接受。”蔺雪峰说,这座城市既须体现“未来”,又不能是空中楼阁。
 污水库将变“净湖”
 打开中新天津生态城的官方网站,显示城市未来面貌的动画上,会有阴影掠过城市。那是每年都要造访这里的成群候鸟。
 不过在之前的几年里,在这片滩涂湿地落脚的候鸟正在减少,停留的时间也开始缩短——来自附近的工业和生活污水侵入附近的蓟运河,湿地里的芦苇根部都是黄色的。
 “解决污水是生态城目前的重要任务。”中新天津生态城环境局局长靳美珠告诉本刊记者,在生态城北部还有一个巨大的污水库,常年承接来自周边区域的污水。
 在解决污水问题之前,生态城已经完成了在盐碱地上再造土地的计划。
 生态城座落在退海成陆仅500年至700年的海积平原,盐田、水面、荒滩三分天下。与恶劣的自然环境对应的是,30平方公里区域内过去只有2000人居住。而生态城建成后,将在2020年拥有35万居民。
 填土来自疏通蓟运河、永定新河的淤泥。把泥水混合物排放到近水陆地,排除淤泥中的水分,达到一定标高,使之具有可利用价值。通过上述工艺,可使吹填地块在一年内达到填土的技术标准。
 造2平方公里土地,就需要吹填土方约350万立方米。
 另外一些“新生土地”将来自巨大的污水库。靳美珠告诉本刊记者,蓟运河边的这个面积2.7平方公里的污水库,使用已有30年,现在每天仍有约2万吨污水进入。
 一座新的大型污水处理厂正在规划中。而彻底解决污水库的关键是底泥修复,这一技术在国内尚属空白。即使在日本,也不过是把被重金属污染的底泥装进密封箱体后掩埋。
 为了不污染生态城外的地方,中新天津生态城管委会正在委托高校进行实验,希望将底泥做无害化脱水处理,然后装进袋子填埋污水库的一半面积。
 “装底泥的袋子要比一个房间还大,经过处理使其硬化,国外一般用来做防洪堤,也有的用于小面积造地,但都没有我们这么大规模,要填出十几公顷。”靳美珠说,污水库的剩余部分,净化后将作为景观水体,名字都起好了,叫“净湖”。
 各种渠道造出的“新生土地”,是“未来城市”崛起的基础。
 在已经开工的生态城起步区,记者被告之,脚下约一米深的土壤都是后来填垫的。作为整个生态城的试验标本,这里预计在2010年底完成建设。
 “起步区有290万平方米生态住宅。”蔺雪峰说,它们将以100平方米左右的户型为主,不久后这些未来型住宅将集中上市预售。
 环保科技怎么能“惠”而不“贵”
 根据中新天津生态城管委会的标准,生态城内的住宅将是先进环保科技的集大成者。事实上,在国内还从来未大规模强制实施过的绿色建筑标准体系。而在天津生态城,绿色建筑将达100%。
 比如住宅在建设时就将与太阳能光热设施进行一体化结合;自然通风设计将最大程度减少空调的使用;而节能保温墙体又会在冬季减少热量损失。
 生态建筑看起来简单,却充满了难题。中新天津生态城管委会建设局副局长叶炜举例说,一般住宅的屋顶可以有两坡、四坡、平坡,颜色也可以变化。但是以现有的技术,太阳能装置一定要有40度的坡度,而且是深蓝色、灰蓝色。这会不会造成城市形态的单一?
 事实上,在天津滨海新区的大盘子上,中新天津生态城被赋予的主要功能就是宜居,而这使它一度被误读为大型房地产项目。
 但中新天津生态城管委会的官员并不回避这个话题:如果不引进市场资金进行运作,生态城的模式就无法在中国各地得到复制。
 这其中包括找到先进科技与价格的平衡点。叶炜坦言,目前环保科技对于普通人来讲还是“有点贵”。
 据测算,入门级绿色建筑的价格将比目前的市场价格高5%至15%。叶炜说,如果2010年顺利进行预售,价格不会高于天津市区的住宅价格。
 在不久前结束的天津房交会上,天津市商品房的平均价格是每平米约8000元。实现理想价格的关键,是这片盐碱地上再造的土地,出让价格相对较低。
 “邻里中心”兼顾行政与自治
 4平方公里的起步区,大型挖掘机掀起泥浪,如同正在播种的田野。
 示范交通路段已经建成。和在许多大城市看到的情况不同,这条道路除了机动车道,还专门预留了非机动车道:一半供行人通行,一半供自行车通行。而此前在一些大城市,自行车道曾因“象征落后”而被取缔。
 靳美珠说,慢行交通系统是生态城的特色之一,它和清洁能源、公共交通,将成为解决交通问题的主要手段。
 现在看来,减少车辆对环境的污染和交通拥堵的唯一办法就是减少汽车数量。生态城内的小汽车数量将被控制在一个比较低的水平。当居民外出时,通过轨道交通与外界接驳。在城市内,则利用慢行交通和公共交通。
 这样,就带来了整个城市设计规划和生活方式的巨大变化:人们必须可以通过步行、自行车到达商业和其他服务设施。
 新加坡是一个可以提供经验的城市。生态城将按照他们的模式建设“邻里单元”。这意味着:第一,将在社区内解决大部分生活需求;第二,社区内的居民将形成新的相互关系和管理模式。
 在新加坡,社区都有一个介于物业公司和居委会之间的“邻里中心”,行使一部分政府职能,并体现自治色彩。
 目前,中新天津生态城还在考虑如何引进新加坡的社区管理方式。靳美珠说,比如规定了社区具有环境管理职能,环境局下面就不再设立分局,依靠社区管理机构来配合工作。
 显然,未来城市的市民不仅生活在新科技搭建的大厦里,还将在新的社会管理模式中扮演不同于以往的角色。
 靳美珠执掌的环境局,除了传统的环境保护职能外,还承担水利、水务、绿化等方面的工作,相当于过去的环保局、市容委、环卫局、水务局等等部门的综合体。在这个按照“大部制”构建的单位,目前只有8名职员。
 与一般政府部门不同的还有,生态城各职能部门的“一把手”基本都是专业官员。
 “应该说,生态城中的居民将获得新的、更为有效的政府服务,在新的社会管理模式下生活。在获得经验后,这些模式也将为其他地方所借鉴。”蔺雪峰说。
 生态城并非孤岛
 新加坡为生态城提供了许多经验。比如,新加坡的自来水龙头都有四档水量,在细节处实现节水。
 蔺雪峰说,希望生态城的产业园内能建设一个生产这种节水设备的工厂,环保产业也将是生态城的支柱产业。这些企业以生产环保产品满足生态城建设的需要,而企业在这个过程中得到壮大,然后使生态城成为中国乃至世界重要的环保产品产地和研发基地。
 不过,生态城毕竟是建在中国的土地上。新加坡处于亚热带,不需要考虑朝向问题。但生态城的设计必须从中国特点出发,达到保温、自然采光、通风等的结合。双方曾为此多次沟通。
 而今天的中国,毕竟与15年前中新合作苏州工业园时大有不同。生态城的一些新方人员曾参与过苏州工业园的建设。而中方官员则表示,在处理生态城的每一个细节时,他们的眼光都是朝向全世界的。
 对于管委会来讲,诸暨市高温模温机,也许更多问题还要在国内的范围内解决。
 比如,生态城并非孤岛,十几公里外就是重要的工业区,而贯穿生态城的蓟运河,其上游甚至不在天津市的管辖范围内。
 靳美珠说,目前已经开始进行一定程度的生态补偿,以减少周边地区对生态城区域的环境影响。“像周边区域有大化工和制造业,要迁厂就会影响地方收入和群众生活水平;上游来的水也不能无限制地由我们处理,也需要在源头治理。”
 好在环境和生态已经逐渐成为整个国家的共识。管委会的官员说,他们希望中新生态城尽早成为一座并不特殊的城市。
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