Susan Page's bestselling relationship book has been translated into 18 languages, is being read in more than 25 countries, and its mass-market edition has sold more than 158,000 copies. At the heart of this book are Page's famed 10 strategies for readers to better self-understanding and ultimately a fulfilling relationship. Filled with revealing anecdotes, case studies, and quizzes, the book's down-to- earth guidance will appeal to everyone who devoured books like Mars and Venus on a Date and Getting the Love You Want, and anyone who wants a fulfilling intimate relationship.

When I started writing this hook, I was still single. Recently, my husband and I celebrated our twentieth wedding anniversary, spending three zany days in Las Vegas. But I still work with singles, and I'm here to say, in twenty years, not much has changed.

Singles are still ambivalent about what they want. Dating is still awkward. People still blame society, the opposite sex, and fate for their involuntary single status.

And still, I receive letters and emails by the droves from singles for whom the ideas in this book are refreshingly new. "It is now 2 A.M. and I can't decide whether to keep reading or to write you right away! I feel as if I'm on a high," one woman wrote. And another, "Already there have been positive changes in my life as a result of this book. Usually I give my books away. Not this one. It's mine!"

The best news is that I have known or been witness to hundreds of single men and women who have found true love and have been building their lives together happily for many years. The man whose story I tell in these pages who rejected a lovely woman because she had "bony hands" just celebrated his tenth anniversary with a woman who adores him. The two are as happy together as any two people I've known. Another friend fell in love with her perfect match after seven years of passionate devotion to the strategies I outline here. Love does happen to singles all the time, even after years of being alone.

A few changes since I wrote this book are worth mentioning.

It's hard to believe that just a few years ago, the cutting-edge trend in society was androgyny: Men and women are not different after all! Women can be left-brain, effective, and task-oriented. Men can be right brain, emotionally available, and receptive. Not only can we be more alike, we should work toward this.

Now, the widespread acknowledgment that men and women grew up on different planets and must work to understand each other's subtle propensities - which are in fact quite different from each other - has helped many of us to better accept and work with the "opposite" sex.

Of course another big change since I wrote this book is the addition of the Internet and e-mail to the relationship strategics widely used by singles who are looking for love. The Internet has helped to mitigate the excuse singles used to be so fond of: There is just no good way to meet people. Surprisingly though, I still hear this "excuse" all the time in singles workshops, and Chapter Three, which discusses it, is still necessary.

After all these years, I remain an "intimacy advocate." I believe none of us knows enough to be pessimistic; that bright, shining news might always be around the very next corner. I have studied and written about couples who thrive, and I see that they are happy, not because they got luckier than all the rest of us when they found each other, but because they passionately desire and believe in their happiness. They do not dwell on their problems and differences but instead approach every situation with a spirit of good will. These are strategies all of us can learn. So in spite of the inescapable bad press relationships receive and the pervasive negativity that surrounds marriage in our culture, I believe relationships and love are what everything else in life is about. My deepest passion is helping people free themselves from whatever is keeping them from love, and especially from a deep, pleasurable and nurturing bond with another special person.