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Britain / A Loving Relationship : Part 3
« on: December 22, 2012, 04:56:49 AM »
A loving relationship is the unconditional acceptance of another person. Helping him or her to attain personal goals, to grow and encouraging that growth. Each sees the other as a friend who can be trusted, depended upon and enjoyed.

A loving relationship is one which offers comfort in the silent presence of another with whom you know, through words or body language, you share mutual trust, honesty, admiration, devotion, and that special thrill of happiness simply in being together.

A loving relationship is one of trust and acceptance which creates a tender warm feeling of security and contentment. It offers unlimited support and strength upon which one can always draw.

A loving relationship is an undemanding exchange of affection and concern, rooted in total honesty and continuing communication without exploitation.

A loving relationship is not defined by length of time, but rather by quality of caring. At its best, it is a healthy, mutual exchange of thoughts, feelings and experience. It is Home for one's soul - a place to be ourselves and explore our deepest, inner yearnings, hopes, fears, and joys, without fear of condemnation, rejection, or being abandoned. It is an environment within which we can relax, are comforted, and gain the strength to fight the daily battle.

A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.

A loving relationship is one in which both parties feel so loved, so accepted and so safe that they can share their innermost feelings, dreams, failures, successes, without reservation. It is a give-and-take, two-way reciprocal interaction rooted in mutual respect and cloaked with dignity, where tears and smiles are of equal importance and one that continually nurtures and supports growth.

A loving relationship is like an ideal "home" - within it you can totally be yourself, be accepted, understood, trusted and respected as a valuable being. It is a nurturing environment where effort is made to provide enough caring and security so that one can share hopes and fears and where one is encouraged to learn and grow.

A loving relationship is a wanting to celebrate, communicate, and know another's heart and soul.

A loving relationship is being able to express feelings frankly and honestly with child-like spontaneous trust and openness.

A loving relationship is one in which each one sees the beloved not as an extension of self but as a unique, forever becoming, beautiful individual - a situation in which the persons can bring their own special / to each other, a blending of selves without the fear of loss of self.

A loving relationship is a reciprocal, active, changing bond that allows, encourages, in fact, almost demands using all the qualities necessary so that the lover will be all that he or she can be.

It's obvious and rather exciting that, as with all things, we define our own loving relationships. What is important is not so much what the definition includes, but that it is defined in our mind and agreed upon by the individuals forming the relationship. For some, a relationship will require total honesty, trust and commitment. For others a less restrictive involvement will be essential. It would be well to think about the constellation of possibilities suggested when we say "Come into my life. I love you."


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Often corporate print policy should be put to the side and forgotten for the sake of the job.

Unfortunately, contrary to professional advice, this often does not happen. Just three weeks ago I received an order for 2500 promotional stress balls. There were two logos to be printed, two web addresses, two telephone numbers and about ten lines of text both in English and in Welsh.

Having worked quite hard to get the order in the first place, I could feel my mouth drop when confronted with so much to print on these 70mm diameter stress balls.

I went to work right away to prove that it could be done. Our company designer separated the two logos, placing one on one side of the ball and the other on the opposite side. He then typeset the text in a more readable font than those supplied and placed the text under the correct logos.

Everything was quite small but we did it! Or so I thought...

I had already decided to give my customer the additional print position free of charge and very confidently emailed a visual to her to approve.

In less than five minutes I received her emailed reply which was - 'What have you done with our design? Please print everything as we supplied it!'

I spent the next ten minutes on the phone trying to convince her that printing the two logos side by side with all the text under it was a bad idea because nothing would be legible. She wouldn't budge and I did as she asked. I supplied a revised visual which was signed off immediately just under the large red text that state - SOME OR ALL OF THE PRINTED TEXT WILL FILL IN AND MAY NOT BE LEGIBLE.

My customer received her stress toys just the other day. It didn't take long before I received an email from her boss complaining that the text and logos were too small to read.

Really?! - You don't say.

As the job had been signed off there was little more he could say. I have been in the promotional gifts industry for over 20 years and I know what will and will not print well. I can give advice but at the end of the day it is up to the person ordering the goods who has the final decision.

Let's hope company policy doesn't get the best of your next promotion.

Have you ever been in the position where you had to stick to corporate print guidelines against your supplier's advice? What happened? Please feel free to share your comments and experiences by leaving a comment.


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Mexico / Living Loving and Learning past2
« on: December 22, 2012, 04:31:49 AM »
Maybe the point of arriving at adulthood is facing these two people, this man and this woman, and seeing them as ordinary human beings like ourselves, with hangups, with misconceptions, with tenderness, with joy, with sorrow, and with tears, accepting that they are just human beings. And the big thing is that if we have learned love from these people and from this society, we can unlearn it and relearn it; therefore, there is tremendous hope. There is tremendous hope for all of us, but somewhere along the line you've got to learn to love. I think many of these things are inside of us, and nothing that I'm going to say to you is going to be startlingly new. What you are going to find is that somebody is going to have nerve enough to stand up and say it, and maybe, therefore, release it in you so you can say, 'That's the way I feel, too, and is it so wrong to feel this way?"

It's very interesting, but five years ago when I started talking of love, I was very lonely, indeed. I remember, and there are some people in this audience who were in that audience, when I stood up with a colleague from another university at a discussion about behavior modification versus affect. After I had been there screaming and crying about love, this gentleman turned to me and said, "Buscaglia, you are totally irrelevant." I think I have this singular distinction of being the only human being I know who is irrelevant. And it's groovy! But it's not so lonely now because more people are turning toward affect and studying it.

One of the most crucial developments for me was finding Leonard Silberman's book, Crisis in the Classroom. If you haven't read it, do, it's fantastic. It probably will be one of the most significant books in education. It's already on the bestseller list. Anyone who's interested in children must read Silberman's book, including parents. It should be available for everybody. This book is the result of a three-year Carnegie Grant given to Leonard Silberman, a great sociologist and a great psychologist, to find out what the state of American education is today. He concludes that considering that in America education is for all, we're doing a pretty damned good job when it comes to reading and writing, arithmetic and spelling. We're pretty good at that. But we fail miserably in teaching individuals how to be human beings. All we have to do is look around us and we can see this. The accent is definitely on the wrong syllable.

In my first year at USC I was teaching a class. It's an amazing thing - I imagine you feel the same thing I do - but you pick up vibrations from your audience. Things happen between you and your audience if you are talking to them and not at them. It would be marvelous if we could ever have a small group to sit down and really talk and relate instead of always these massive things. But nevertheless, you know that there are certain faces in an audience that come out, certain bodies that vibrate. They reach you and you reach them. Every once in a while, when you need support, you focus on them and receive a smile that says, "Go on man, you're doing fine." Then you can do all kinds of things. Well, I had such a person in this class, a beautiful young girl. She was always about the sixth row back and she'd sit there nodding.

When I'd say something, she'd say, "Oh, yes!" You could hear her say "Wow," and then she'd write things down, and I'd think, "Oh, I'm really communicating with her - something beautiful is happening between us; it's going to be good; she's learning," etc. Then one day she stopped coming. I couldn't imagine what had happened and I kept looking for her but she wasn't there. Finally, I checked with the Dean of Women and she said, "Haven't you heard?" . . . this young lady whose papers were absolutely brilliant, whose mind was exciting, who had a creativity like you never dreamed . . . had gone to Pacific Palisades, an area where sheer cliffs fall into the sea. She parked her car, walked out, jumped off that cliff and splattered herself on the rocks below. It bothers me still and I thought to myself - what are we doing stuffing facts at people and forgetting that they are people, that they are human beings?


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Nigeria / EXODUS!
« on: December 22, 2012, 04:06:29 AM »

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