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Visa fraud saga:Director of Public Affairs confident that the law will take its course

Madam Kate Addo, the Acting Director of Public Affairs at the Parliament of Ghana, has said the Speaker of Parliament is keen on investigating, and bringing the law to bear on all persons implicated in the UK government?s visa fraud allegations if need be.
Source: Visa fraud saga:Director of Public Affairs confident that the law will take its course

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Visa fraud saga:Director of Public Affairs confident that the law will take its course

Madam Kate Addo, the Acting Director of Public Affairs at the Parliament of Ghana, has said the Speaker of Parliament is keen on investigating, and bringing the law to bear on all persons implicated in the UK government?s visa fraud allegations if need be.
Source: Visa fraud saga:Director of Public Affairs confident that the law will take its course

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Why some MMDCEs hopefuls were rejected - Former Minister

A former Local Government Minister in the erstwhile Kufuor  administration, Kwadwo Adjei-Darko has been explaining why some people have been denied their ambition  to become  District Chief Executives (DCEs)  indicating that some of the decision were taken based  on their  religious beliefs.
Source: Why some MMDCEs hopefuls were rejected - Former Minister

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Former Minister advises NPP Youth against violence over MMDCEs

The youth of the New Patriotic Party (NPP) have been admonished to seek for development in their various districts than to engage themselves in unnecessary protestations against nominees for the Metropolitan, Municipal and District Chief Executives (MMDCEs) positions.
Source: Former Minister advises NPP Youth against violence over MMDCEs

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Ghana / Ashanti police at war with gangs
« on: Today at 03:30:18 AM »
Ashanti police at war with gangs

The Ashanti Regional Police Command has announced plans to arrest gangsters and other criminals in the various towns and communities in the region.
Source: Ashanti police at war with gangs

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After Ann Coulter Speech Cancellation, Protesters Rally At Berkeley

The university and city of Berkeley saw dueling, but peaceful demonstrations with police on hand. Coulter suggested that she might "swing by" to greet supporters but never did.
Source: After Ann Coulter Speech Cancellation, Protesters Rally At Berkeley

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Ghana / Government to support fifty companies
« on: Today at 03:06:54 AM »
Government to support fifty companies

The Ministry of Trade and Industry (MoTI) has selected 50 companies that will be provided with a stimulus package to revive them.
Source: Government to support fifty companies

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Ghana / Government to support fifty companies
« on: Today at 03:06:54 AM »
Government to support fifty companies

The Ministry of Trade and Industry (MoTI) has selected 50 companies that will be provided with a stimulus package to revive them.
Source: Government to support fifty companies

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Angel Group of Companies in serious trouble over Adonko Bitters concert in Kumasi

On Easter Monday, April 17 this year, Angel Group of Companies organised a mega concert at the Baba Yara Sports Stadium.
Source: Angel Group of Companies in serious trouble over Adonko Bitters concert in Kumasi

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Ghana / Current music is poor quality ? Ofori Amponsah
« on: Today at 02:56:30 AM »
Current music is poor quality ? Ofori Amponsah

Although some leading musicians such as Bisa Kdei, Kofi Kinaata, Shatta Wale and others are churning out well-composed hit tracks and keeping Ghanaian music scene bubbly, celebrated Highlife artiste Ofori Amponsah says a lot of the songs being released are lacking in quality and generally poor.
Source: Current music is poor quality ? Ofori Amponsah

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Ghana / Best snacks for people with type 2 diabetes
« on: Today at 02:46:13 AM »
Best snacks for people with type 2 diabetes

Diabetes can lead to a wide range of symptoms including high blood pressure, circulation issues, kidney damage, blindness, and skin problems. But the right diet can help manage these symptoms.
Healthful snacks for people with diabetes can keep blood sugar in check. They may also help reduce the severity of diabetes symptoms such as high blood pressure.
Eating right can feel daunting, particularly at first, but people with diabetes can continue enjoying a wide range of snacks.
Contents of this article:
Foods high in protein
High-fiber snacks
Snacks for diabetes: The basics
Other tips for healthful snacking
Foods high in protein
High-protein foods include nuts, legumes, animal products such as eggs and cheese, and alternatives to meat such as tofu and mushrooms.
Healthful snacks for people with diabetes that are satisfying and rich in protein include:
roasted chickpeas
apples or celery with almond butter
almonds, walnuts, or pistachios
trail mix, particularly if it doesn't contain sweetened ingredients
hard-boiled eggs
turkey or smoked salmon roll-ups
plain yogurt, particularly Greek yogurt
low-sodium cottage cheese mixed with fresh fruit
diced avocado and cherry tomatoes
snap peas or other raw veggies with hummus
Several of these options can work well as both sweet and savory snacks. Honey-roasted chickpeas provide a good balance of sweet and savory. Nuts can be paired with slices of cheese or dried fruit. Adding nuts or fruit can also make yogurt sweeter or more savory.
For the turkey roll-ups, people can use thinly sliced turkey or lettuce to replace the pita. Adding hummus and vegetables makes for a hearty snack.
High-fiber snacks
Vegetables, legumes, and nuts are excellent sources of fiber. Whole grains, oats, and some fruits are as well.
People with diabetes can try some of these high-fiber snacks:
Plain yogurt with oats and fruit, such as figs, is a high-fiber snack that can help a person feel full longer.
smoothies blended with high-fiber, non-starchy vegetables
sprouted, whole-grain breads
whole-grain or bean pastas
oatmeal, mixed with fresh berries or sliced banana for additional sweetness and fiber
avocado slices
figs dipped into Greek yogurt
kale or spinach chips, which can satisfy a chip craving without the added sodium and fat
carrots dipped in hummus offer protein and fiber in a low-sodium snack
sweet potato foods, including baked sweet potato fries, cooked whole sweet potatoes, or sweet potato toast
To sub sweet potatoes for toast, people should toast thinly sliced sweet potato for three or four cycles and top with regular choices of toppings.
People who dislike spinach, kale, or wheat grass can hide their tastes by adding sweet or citrusy fruits such as oranges and mangoes to smoothies while still getting high-fiber nutrition.
Whole-grain breads and bean pastas are an excellent way to manage carbohydrate cravings. To increase their nutritional value, people can try adding almond butter to whole-grain bread, or eating high-fiber bean pasta mixed with vegetables.
Snacks for diabetes: The basics
Healthful snacks for people with diabetes promote feelings of fullness, reducing any urges to snack on unhealthy packaged foods and sweets. There are healthful foods in every food group, so there's no need to feel like diabetes means foregoing enjoyable food.
No single snack is perfect, and no food can provide perfect nutrition. That is why it is important to eat a wide variety of foods and to try a range of snacks.
Healthful snacks for people with diabetes will offer one or more of the following benefits:
High fiber
High-carbohydrate diets can elevate blood sugar levels. Fiber, which is a carbohydrate, is an exception to this rule, however.
Oat bran is high in soluble fiber, which helps control blood sugar levels.
Fiber comes in two main varieties, both of which are good for people with diabetes.
Soluble fiber is found in high levels in oat bran, legumes, and some fruits. This type of fiber controls blood sugar levels and can lower cholesterol.
Insoluble fiber is found in high levels in wheat bran and many fruits and vegetables. It can relieve constipation and may reduce the risk of cancer.
Because fiber is digested slowly, it can increase feelings of fullness. This makes it an ideal snack component that can prevent overeating.
People with diabetes should consume 25 grams (g) or more of dietary fiber each day.
Low sugar
Sugary foods can elevate blood sugar and cause weight gain. Sweets such as cookies, cupcakes, and candy are obvious sources of high sugar.
People with diabetes also need to be mindful of carbohydrates, such as those found in bread, pasta, fruits, vegetables, and many other foods. Carbohydrates aren't bad on their own, but keeping carb intake low can control blood sugar.
Drinks such as soda, sweetened fruit juices, and alcohol also contain high levels of sugar. Adding these beverages to an otherwise healthful snack can cause blood sugar levels to spike.
High protein
Protein supports feelings of fullness between meals. It is the body's building block, supporting healthy muscles, organs, and skin.
While everyone needs protein in their diet, protein is particularly important for people who are physically active or who lift weights. The average person needs at least 0.36 g of protein per pound of body weight per day. This works out at 56 g a day for the average man and 46 g a day for the average woman.
However, research generally suggests that people should consume even more than these minimal amounts. A 2005 study found that women who increased their protein intake to 30 percent of total calories a day ate 441 fewer calories per day. They also lost weight during the 12 weeks. There was no follow-up to confirm if those women maintained the weight loss, however.
Increasing protein intake may support healthy weight loss and reduce unhealthy snacking.
Low sodium
A large percentage of sodium intake comes from salt added to processed foods, so reading the nutritional label is important.
A low sodium diet can lower blood pressure, reducing the risk of cardiovascular disease and heart attack.
While reducing the use of table salt can help, as much as 75 percent of sodium intake comes from salty processed foods rather than adding salt to meals.
Portion control
No matter how healthful a snack is, eating too much of it can lead to unhealthy weight gain. This may disrupt blood sugar levels.
Consulting a snack's nutrition facts makes it easier for people to eat a single serving. Nutrition facts also provide information about calorie, protein, sugar, and carbohydrate content.
Other tips for healthful snacking
Healthful snacking with diabetes is not just about choosing the right foods. Knowing which foods to avoid, how to manage cravings, and how fluid intake affects appetite is also vital.
The following strategies support healthful snacking with diabetes. People should aim to:
Drink plenty of water throughout the day. Thirst can feel like hunger, and drinking water can support feelings of fullness.
Limit consumption of sodas, sweetened juices, and other sweetened drinks. Coffee and tea are fine in moderation, but adding sugar, cream, and other flavoring agents can elevate blood sugar.
Limit processed and prepackaged foods. This is the simplest way to reduce sodium and sugar intake. Stick to the refrigerated sections of the grocery store and avoid most of the freezer sections.
Space meals evenly throughout the day to avoid blood sugar dips and spikes. It is preferable to eat five to seven small snacks or meals instead of three large meals.
Avoid fried foods, particularly fried meats.
Source: Best snacks for people with type 2 diabetes

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The 16 creepiest dating things every girl has done but will never admit

Look, it happens. You start off doing one harmless Google search of someone (you know, just to make sure they're not a serial killer or something) and then suddenly you've blacked out and woken up in the matrix, surrounded by his social security number, blood type, mother's maiden name, and other info you can never unsee!
Here, a non-exhaustive list of things every girl has done ? so you can feel better about yourself the next time you wake up drowning in a Google-stalk.
1. Looking him up so much on Instagram that his ex-girlfriend's handle auto populates in the search bar. "Um, no, I also know Caitlin ... She was my roommate's friend's coworker who studied abroad together." ?a paper thin excuse you hope you never have to trot out.
2. Deleting your search history before you hang out because you just can't risk it. Then you have to search a bunch of random dog accounts and memes to look up so it doesn't look suspiciously empty.
3. Opening up a private browsing window just to stalk his LinkedIn. The time you save figuring out his major and honors activities on your own time is time you could spend asking the important questions later on, like: What is the ideal ratio of sons to daughters you would like to have? Where will you be spending the holidays? Classic colonial or midcentury modern for your starter home?
4. Going so far back in Google results that you find his high school sports rankings. Oooh, varsity track. Nice. Bonus points if you then look up his high school's Wikipedia page to find out just how competitive that track program was.
5. Trying to view his profile from your friends' accounts so it's "not weird." "I know you're on the phone with your mom, but lemme just check out his Instagram story real quick! No, I can't use my own phone. Because it looks desperate that's why."
6. Accidentally memorising his Grandpa's obituary and thus his entire family tree. Whoa, how'd you end up on his maternal grandmother's cousin's sister's uncle's Ancestry.com page? Haha, weird.
7. Curating your conversation around things you noticed he likes. Extra points if you then try to downplay said new info to make it look ... casual. "Oh you're into The Cure? Crazy how *looks at hand* 'that is a band,' huh?"
8. Stalking his Facebook with the precision of a surgeon. As in, elbows locked at your sides, sitting upright, avoiding the trackpad like the plague (just in case you slip and 24 mouse clicks later, accidentally like profile picture no. 78 out of 140.)
9. Viewing his Instagram on private browsing so you won't accidentally like anything. It's too easy! Also videos: You obv wanna see them, but the risk of accidentally liking while trying to play or adding too many new loops would totally out you.
10. Looking at his Venmo. So precious how he and his roommate Jake split utilities on there! LOL. "What do you think this means?" you ask all your friends about what is clearly a straightforward food bill being split. You aren't too sure though ? guys can be so mysterious.
11. Looking up his parent's mortgage on Zillow.
12. If you met on a dating app, looking them up after your initial matching to see if they've updated their profile since meeting you. Aka are they over you aka do they hate you now?
13. Creating a whole narrative of his past relationships based on two photos of him tagged with a girl, declaring her the enemy, etc. You know, reasonable conclusions.
14. Physically holding your phone up closer to your face to see as much of their Snapchat story from the tiny little preview icon without watching. You can only watch so much of someone's story without sending a message, so you don't want to waste one of your precious views on dumpster content.
15. Going through their likes tab on Twitter or monitoring your following feed on Instagram just to see what they're up to. Cool how you also now follow this niche meme account now too, hahaha, damn, weird.
16. Saying their last name as yours in your head. Carina Gyllenha? whoops! If you've done this even once it counts!!! Sorry, I don't make the rules.
Source: The 16 creepiest dating things every girl has done but will never admit

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Ghana / 14 warning signs he's playing you for a fool
« on: Today at 02:46:13 AM »
14 warning signs he's playing you for a fool

A guy who's not relationship material always lets you know; you just have to know what to look for.
When I look back at all the relationships that didn?t work out (that I so wanted to at the time), I realize that in every case, there were early warning signs that each guy gave me that could have given me some idea of the heartbreak I was about to experience if I had only been aware of what to look for. To spare you from being played for a fool by a man, here's the inside scoop on what you can be on the lookout for so you can break up with him before he breaks your heart..
Here's the ultimate list of warning signs that clearly tell you that he's a guy to avoid if you're looking for a real relationship.
1.  He doesn?t call you when he says he?s going to
Granted, I know that sometimes life can get it the way, and if he?s working late on that big project with the looming deadline it?s possible that time might get away from him once in a while. But if this happens more than once or twice, it?s a sure sign that you?re just not a priority for him right now.
If a guy is really interested in starting (or continuing) a real relationship with you, you will be on his mind, and he won?t forget to call.
2.  He?s often late and doesn?t call to let you know.
I know there are lots of reasons people can run late that are beyond their control (traffic jam, car problems, being stuck at the office), but a quick call from his cell phone will put your mind at ease, and let you know that you have a few more minutes to try on that one other outfit you were still considering.
The point here is about being respectful of your time ? we can forgive lateness, even chronic lateness (some people just aren?t good at judging how much time something will take), but not calling to let you know he?ll be a little late?
That?s inexcusable and a sure sign that he?s not too concerned about you.
3.  He doesn?t show up at all (and doesn?t call) when you have plans to see him.
OK ladies, unless he was (verifiably) unconscious in a hospital somewhere, getting stood up is a ?one strike and you?re out? offense. There is absolutely no good reason for this (except the one above), and if you stay with him after a maneuver like that, you?ll be in for a very bumpy emotional ride that?s almost guaranteed to end badly.
Cell phone reception is excellent these days (unless he?s a lumberjack working in the great North Woods), so this one is unforgivable.
4.  He has rules about how often he can see you.
It?s one thing to have the boys? ?Wednesday Poker Night?, or something along those lines, but if he?s only willing to get together say, every other weekend (with the exception being a child custody situation), then that?s a sure sign he?s keeping his options open and still scouring the market for something better (at least in his mind ? he just doesn?t realize that you?re the best thing going!).
5.  He knows way more about you than you know about him.
If you find yourself doing all the talking during your conversations, and when you ask him something about himself he doesn?t say much, it may be because he?s hiding something or doesn?t want to get too close to you.

Many guys just aren?t big talkers, but if he hasn?t told you the details of where he works, where he grew up, went to school, etc., and if he gives you vague answers when you ask him about these specifics, then that means he?s keeping you at a distance.
6.  You know way more about him than he knows about you.
This one is the flip side to the last warning sign - if he?s so busy talking all about himself, and shows no interest in who you are, what you like to do, or what your idea of the future looks like, this should be a real red flag.
The good news about this one is that there?s no danger of taking it personally ? it?s all about him. It has nothing to do with you ? this kind of guy isn?t interested in anyone ? but himself. Steer clear (way clear).
7.  He doesn?t tell anyone about you. (Read: No one knows he has a girlfriend ? YOU)

If he doesn?t introduce you to his friends, or ask you to hang out with them once in a while, go to a party or get together with them - that?s a sure sign that he?s not sure about the whole thing. Of course you may not want to hang out with his friends much, particularly if they?re a group of partying bachelors, but they should at least know about you, and it should be your decision.
How they treat you when you?re around can also be a big tell-tale sign of how things are going or will go ? if they kind of treat you like ?yeah, you?re the girlfriend of the month, I?ll talk to you if you can make it past week 4?, then that?s a sign of what?s likely to be coming next.
8.  He doesn?t invite you to meet his family ? ever.
Of course inviting you to meet the family is a big deal, as it should be, and it doesn?t happen until he feels like this thing is going somewhere. So that?s just it ? if time is starting to drag on, and he still hasn?t invited you to meet his family, the likelihood is that he?s having doubts about the relationship. There is the outside chance that he?s embarrassed by his family. I have a good friend whose husband?s family (which consists of his elderly mother and Aunt, who raised him together and still both live together) are essentially, well, mildly deranged.
They look like the stereotypical ?bag ladies?, and even showed up for my friends nuptials wearing multiple layers of ragged clothing and carrying some of their belongings in what were essentially re-useable shopping bags. But he had told her about them fairly early on in their relationship, and she did finally meet them. And let me say, as far as mildly deranged people go, they?re very sweet (I met them at the wedding), and they did a great job at raising their son/nephew.
So, the bottom line is that if the relationship has been going on for some time ? just to put a number on it, let?s say over 6 months ? and he hasn?t invited you to meet his family yet, it?s certainly time to question him about it. If he still doesn?t introduce you? Time to start planning your exit strategy.
9.  He doesn?t spend the holidays with you.
I know there are situations, such as when a divorced man wants to spend time with his children at the family holiday get together, but even then he can make time for you either before or after his family time. Everyone knows how special holidays are to us women, and if he doesn?t, then that?s a sign of other issues (for example, not being considerate and thoughtful regarding your feelings).
If he?s just taking off on a surf vacation to Bali with his buddies over the holidays because that?s when it?s less crowded, and you?re not invited, then you?re clearly a low priority to him.
10.  He?s got lots of female friends ? and makes sure you know this.
In my experience, ?platonic? friendships are rarely, if ever, that ? there are almost always some feelings in one direction. Either the guy is secretly harboring feelings for the girl, or vice versa. And when a guy is in a relationship, he has so much less time to spend with his buddies ? why on earth would he ever choose to spend that precious time with another woman? Well, there are a number of reasons he might, and they all involve one deep seated issue or another, and none of them are good. And making sure you know about it? That?s just playing games, and just another reason to get out and find yourself an emotionally healthy man to be in a relationship with.
11.  He doesn?t tell you what he?s doing, where he?s going, or when he?ll be back.
If your guy likes to keep you guessing, there?s a reason. This is another sure sign that he?s keeping his options open. In a healthy relationship there?s no hiding or secrets. If he?s not being open and upfront about his whereabouts, then stop worrying about it ? just move on.
12.  He doesn?t talk about his plans for the future with you.
I?m all for living in the moment and enjoying the ?now?. But eventually in a relationship a discussion of future plans has got to come up ? otherwise you?ll never know if the two of you are sailing together or heading towards different continents.
If he?s not at least occasionally talking about the future with you then chances are, in his mind, you?re not in it.
13.  He lets you know he had a life without you and he still has a life without you.
I mean, sure, when you?re first dating, it?s interesting to hear about the places your guy has been and all of the fun times he?s had with his friends.
But if he?s still reminiscing about his single life escapades after your relationship has moved to the next level, or worse, making plans to have more of those escapades (without you), then the truth is he still wants to be single. Let him.
14.  You feel like if you could just change yourself and not be so needy, this would all work out
This is by far the biggest warning sign of all. If you start to feel that there?s something wrong with you, or you?re doing something wrong that?s causing him to pull away, and maybe if you just gave him more of the freedom he wants, and wait for him quietly, and?well, you get it.
Don?t fall into this trap. If you want a real relationship, equipped with real feelings, real caring, real consideration, and real romance, and he doesn?t, then he?s not the right guy for you and let him (and yourself) go.
If you see any of these warning signs, and especially if you see several of them, chances are that this is not a guy that?s looking for a real relationship right now ? or at least not the kind you?re looking for
Your best bet is to walk away gracefully, with your self-esteem intact, and not look back (even if he then starts calling you and chasing you ? that?s just a sign of a game-player with deeper issues). Rather than trying to get him to change or waiting for him to come around, try focusing on you and why you?re in a relationship with someone like this. If you find yourself in this type of relationship often, which many of us do, it?s time for some real soul searching to get to the root of it.
If you have access to good counseling, take advantage of it, as many times this is the only way to true healing. And it will be worth it in the long run, to get you past the cycle of toxic relationships so you can move on to the kind of true, sustainable love that you want to attract into your life.
Sometimes it?s hard to see when we?re in it, but know that if you?re settling for less than you deserve, there truly is someone out there ready and waiting to give you what you?re looking for ? and to treat you the way you deserve to be treated
It?s in believing in ourselves, trusting our gut instincts and discovering who we really are and what we?re really looking for, that all the other pieces of the puzzle fall into place and we find ourselves finally getting it right and discovering the love of our lives ? the one who doesn?t come with any red flags. And you deserve nothing less than that, no matter where you?ve been or what you?ve been through.
It?s all out there waiting for you!
Source: 14 warning signs he's playing you for a fool

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Ghana / Ghana, Kenya and Malawi to get first Malaria vaccine
« on: Today at 02:46:12 AM »
Ghana, Kenya and Malawi to get first Malaria vaccine

The world's first vaccine against malaria will be introduced in three countries - Ghana, Kenya and Malawi - starting in 2018.
The RTS,S vaccine trains the immune system to attack the malaria parasite, which is spread by mosquito bites.
The World Health Organization (WHO) said the jab had the potential to save tens of thousands of lives.
But it is not yet clear if it will be feasible to use in the poorest parts of the world.
The vaccine needs to be given four times - once a month for three months and then a fourth dose 18 months later.
This has been achieved in tightly controlled and well-funded clinical trials, but it is not yet clear if it can be done in the "real-world" where access to health care is limited.
It is why the WHO is running pilots in three countries to see if a full malaria vaccine programme could be started. It will also continue to assess the safety and effectiveness of the vaccination.
Dr Matshidiso Moeti, the WHO regional director for Africa, said: "The prospect of a malaria vaccine is great news.
"Information gathered in the pilot programme will help us make decisions on the wider use of this vaccine.
"Combined with existing malaria interventions, such a vaccine would have the potential to save tens of thousands of lives in Africa."
The pilot will involve more than 750,000 children aged between five and 17 months. Around half will get the vaccine in order to compare the jab's real-world effectiveness.
In this age group, the four doses have been shown to prevent nearly four in ten cases of malaria.
This is much lower than approved vaccines for other conditions.
Malaria vaccine: How good is good enough?
It also cuts the most severe cases by a third and reduces the number of children needing hospital treatment or blood transfusions.
But the benefits fall off significantly without the crucial fourth dose.
Ghana, Kenya and Malawi were chosen because they already run large programmes to tackle malaria, including the use of bed nets, yet still have high numbers of cases.
Each country will decide how to run the vaccination pilots, but high-risk areas are likely to be prioritised.
Despite huge progress, there are still 212 million new cases of malaria each year and 429,000 deaths.
Africa is the hardest hit and most of the deaths are in children.
The pilots are being funded by: Gavi, the Vaccine Alliance, the Global Fund to Fight Aids, Tuberculosis and Malaria, Unitaid, the WHO and GSK.
Dr Seth Berkley, the chief executive of Gavi, said: "The world's first malaria vaccine is a real achievement that has been 30 years in the making.
"Today's announcement marks an important step towards potentially making it available on a global scale.
"Malaria places a terrible burden on many of the world's poorest countries, claiming thousands of lives and holding back economies.
"These pilots are crucial to determining the impact this vaccine could have on reducing this toll."
Source: Ghana, Kenya and Malawi to get first Malaria vaccine

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Ghana / 8 profound lessons intimate relationships teach us
« on: Today at 02:46:12 AM »
8 profound lessons intimate relationships teach us

Our intimate relationships teach us more than about the hearts of the ones we love. They teach us about ourselves. There is no greater people growing machine than that of love.
Our culture often views love as some fuzzy thing that gets passed around and makes us feel warm inside. But as we all know, this happens only part of the time. The other part is full of anxiety, confusion, and frustration.
Having problems in our relationships are inevitable. Even our soulmates cause issues sometimes. According to John Gottman, couples disagree on unsolvable never-ending issues 69% of the time.
While many see conflict as a sign of incompatibility, conflicts that most couples experience are signals that the relationship needs growth to occur.
The feeling of disconnection from your partner can be used to find new horizons of communicating. Your sexless marriage can cause you to take a deep look at your integrity. It can teach you how to embody your deepest desires and how to truly want your partner and experience life-changing intimacy.
Your relationship can be a foundation of profound growth and vitality. Even Abraham Maslow, famous for creating a Hierarchy of Needs, argued that, without bonds of love and affection with others, we cannot go on to achieve our full potential as human beings.
Maslow?s Hierarchy of Needs

Our relationships have profound life lessons if we let them. If you don?t let those lessons sink in, then you are likely to prevent growth from occurring, which ultimately will leave you stuck in an unfulfilling relationship.
My own relationships has caused me to face anxiety. To stand in the threshold of what I thought was happening and open myself up to see what was actually happening. My intimate relationship taught me how to let my partner tell me what I am doing wrong as I swallowed my defensiveness and took a step into a new realm of loving my partner.
Love has taught me eight powerful lessons.
8 Ways Intimate Relationships Teach Us
1.Happiness in our relationships does not come by finding the right partner, it requires you to become the right partner as well.
This requires massive personal growth.
Your relationship gives you an opportunity to learn how to control your anger, your reactions, and your defensiveness, so you can find new ways of being affectionate, giving, and respectful of your partner?s differences. It causes you to let someone depend on you. To behave in trustworthy ways that prove your commitment and reliability in the relationship. To face the vulnerability of giving your heart to one person fully, without a secret life and without escape routes.
Being the right partner is not an easy journey. But the emotional depth and growth you will experience will bring fulfillment beyond what you ever imagined.
2. Facts matter less than feelings.
In a relationship, there are two roads of communicating. There is a fact and a feeling. As a guy, I have habitually clung to the facts of what was going on in my relationship. But our feelings are not some fact we can fact check; they are emotions. When communicating with our partners the one thing you don?t want to miss is the feeling. Because the feeling is what really matters.
If your partner is angry, realize there tends to be a feeling of hurt underneath that anger. Ask your partner why they are feeling hurt. That?s how you diffuse anger. Once you can show your partner that you understand why they feel the way they do, even if you disagree, the quicker both of you can connect and find a solution.
3. There will always be a reason to reject anyone.
Every single person is imperfect and every single person will cause you to want to push them away. To dump them. To leave them.

?Every [relationship] demands an effort to keep it on the right track; there is constant tension...between forces that hold you together and those that tear you apart.? - John Gottman

The trick to making love last is to discover - and to continue to discover - reasons for staying together.
4. Withdrawal is death.
A dysfunctional relationship pattern that emerged from 40 years of research in John Gottman?s love lab was withdrawal. When we turn away from our partners, the affection, shared humor, and joy goes out the window.
Withdrawal tends to happen when one person is emotionally unavailable or when a couple continues to behave in negative ways that push each other away. It?s emotionally crippling. Withdrawal kills intimacy and sexual passion.
Personal growth comes from learning how to be hurt or angry and not withdrawing from the relationship. To learn how to say you?re upset, frustrated and hurt so both your partner and you can come together to talk through it. It takes emotional depth to not put up a wall. If you want a close intimate relationship, then that?s what you need to learn how to do.
5. Touch is the best aphrodisiac.

Affectionate touch brings us closer and causes us to stay close. If you?re not touching your partner often, your relationship is not going to feel passionate. Both of you will feel that the connection and closeness you once had is diminishing.
While sexual touching does improve romance, affectionate touching deepens romance. It?s the gentle brush along the back as you pass in the hall. The touching of one?s hair as you lay in bed. Love thrives in the micro-moments of connection, and sometimes the best way to create a connection is to reach out and touch your loved one.
Consistently ask yourself, ?If I?m going to make this relationship work, what must I do? What must I quit doing?? Often we know what we want from our partner, but very few of us have a clear idea of what our partner needs from us. If your answers to this question are unknown, or if they feel superficial or vague, then it?s time you ask your partner. ?Am I helping you get your needs met in this relationship? (And if not, what can I do differently?)? Honor what your partner says. It matters.
6. Complaining to friends & family doesn?t help.
Often we feel so frustrated with our partners that it becomes easy to gossip with our friends and family about their flaws, their lack of sexual desire, or their horrible communication skills. Unfortunately, our friends and family do not have the power to change your relationship. If you have a problem, go directly to your partner. That?s the only person who can make the effort to change your relationship.
7. Love is a verb, not a feeling.
If you want your relationship to work, then you have to make an intentional effort to make it work. Two of my most popular articles reinforce this.
If you want the romance to stay alive, you have to keep it alive. As unattractive as that may sound to some people, I think that is the most attractive thing a person can offer.
?I?m making you a priority in my life and will continue to court you and learn new ways of making you happy.?
Is there anything sexier than that?
If you take the time to think about it, some of the biggest lessons we?ve learned have come from our intimate relationships. Our relationships offer us a window into ourselves. We grow from miscommunication and misunderstanding. We become mature by learning how to control our emotions and improving the way we communicate when we are flooded with anger.
Our relationships teach us what is and isn?t acceptable. With every relationship problem that occurs, ask yourself, ?what lesson can I learn from this? What is this problem teaching me??
8.Relationship problems can be a catalyst for profound personal growth.
If you listen, you will quickly discover that life?s powerful lessons are taught within our relationships. With those closest to us.
I?ll leave you with a quote that profoundly continues to touch me and my relationship.

?Romantic love requires courage - the courage to stay vulnerable, to stay open to our feelings to our partner, even when we are temporarily in conflict, even when we are frustrated, hurt, angry - the courage to remain connected with our love, rather than shutting down emotionally, even when it is terribly difficult to do so.
?When a couple lacks this courage and seeks ?safety? from pain in the refuge of withdrawal, as so commonly happens, it is not romantic love that has failed them but they who have failed romantic love.?
- Nathaniel Branden.

This was originally published on Healthy Relationships with Kyle Benson
Source: 8 profound lessons intimate relationships teach us

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